The power of no

Today's inspiring quote comes from Ryan Holiday's Ego is the Enemy (page 116): 

All of us regularly say yes unthinkingly, or out of vague attraction, or out of greed or vanity. Because we can't say no - because we might miss out on something if we did. We think 'yes' will let us accomplish more, when in reality it prevents exactly what we seek. All of us waste precious life doing things we don't like, to prove ourselves to people we don't respect, and to get things we don't want.

I'm guilty of this, to a spectacular degree. The fear of missing out is very much in me. I have said yes to so many things, just to prove a point to people whose opinions I don't actually care about. Yes, I recognize it's stupid. I'm not proud of this. But it is a very powerful force in my life, that I've given into way too many times. It has led me down some paths I never wanted to be on in the first place. 

Learning to say no, to focus on what's really important to me even if it means missing out, that's key to my own happiness. It's taken me a very long time to reach that point, and I still feel very scared and wobbly when I do say no. But I hope eventually - with practice - it will become easier. 

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